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- $Title{Heart Attack and Sexual Relationship}
- $Subject{heart attack sex community social sexual relationship libido activity
- physical mental emotional psychological stress strain problem behavior
- behaviors lifestyle lifestyles attacks performing sexually libidos myocardial
- infarction infarctions}
- $Volume{Q-23}
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- Heart Attack and Sexual Relationship
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- QUESTION: This is a very difficult letter for me to write. My husband has
- always been a loving and affectionate man, and we have enjoyed our married
- relationships deeply. Recently he had a heart attack, from which he seems to
- have recovered quite nicely. However, though he now does all the physical
- things he did before the attack, we still have not resumed our relationship.
- I think he is frightened. Is there anything I can do or say to help him
- regain his manhood?
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- ANSWER: I can fully understand that writing this letter was not an easy task
- for you, but I compliment you on the delicate language you used to convey your
- meaning and the courage you displayed in forwarding this letter to me.
- Talking about sex is not simple for many people, and may be one of the
- problems your husband is facing as well. There are a great many aspects to
- overcoming a heart attack, and the mental and emotional are just as important
- as the physical. Along with the pain and doubt, are the fears, anxieties and
- depression that can affect the way the patient acts. In many cases these
- feelings reduce the libido or desire for a period that extends beyond the
- actual recovery time necessary for the heart to heal. Sometimes the fear of
- the dangers of physical sexual activity loom large in the mind, and often are
- exaggerated. Actually, though sexual activity does require some physical
- energy, it is not excessively strenuous or dangerous. Tests to determine the
- amount of energy required for this act have demonstrated that it is about
- equal to climbing two flights of stairs. If your husband can accomplish that
- without symptoms or difficulty, he most probably has nothing to fear from sex
- activity itself. Should symptoms arise during sex, such as chest pain for
- example, you can always stop and then consult your physician. However, your
- relations should resume gradually, after quiet times and not when there are
- moments of other psychological stress or strain. Your ability to reassure
- your husband that his need to perform is not an issue at this time, and to
- engage in a variety of loving caresses can provide just the right atmosphere
- necessary for a return to all that existed before his attack.
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- The material contained here is "FOR INFORMATION ONLY" and should not replace
- the counsel and advice of your personal physician. Promptly consulting your
- doctor is the best path to a quick and successful resolution of any medical
- problem.
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